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How long is the actual hands-on time?

Booked time runs door to door — from when you arrive to when you leave. A shower after the session takes 5–10 minutes and is built in. For longer sessions there’s also time to settle and chat before we begin. Approximate hands-on time: 45 min (1h booking), 75 min (1.5h), 105 min (2h — that’s 120 minutes minus 10 for shower).

If you need a shower before the session instead, just let me know.

WHAT’S THE BOOKING PROCESS?

Use any channel that suits you — WhatsApp, Telegram, email, text or call — to let me know which service interests you, your availability, and any questions.

WhatsApp works best as it allows me to streamline the booking process.

Response time: Within a few hours.

YOUR TIME & THE SPACE

The time you book is the time you have — from the moment you arrive to the moment you leave. A shower before or after takes around 5–10 minutes and is built into that. On longer sessions there’s also room to chat before we begin. No rush at either end.

Every incall session includes a shower, fresh towel and water, in a private bathroom for your exclusive use. Fresh linen every time — never paper.

HOW DO I PAY?

Payment is taken before the session. You can pay with cash or by card/bank transfer. For card or bank transfer payments, I share a Monzo payment link where you can choose your preferred method — Google Pay, Apple Pay, or bank transfer. The system works with modern devices and online banks (Monzo, Revolut, etc). Classic traditional UK banks may not be compatible.

WHAT IS THE DEPOSIT AND CANCELLATION POLICY?

A £30 deposit is required to confirm every booking, from your very first session with me. Your slot isn’t held until the deposit is received — no payment, no booking. The remaining balance is paid on arrival, on the day of your session.

If your plans change:

• 48 hours or more before your session: cancel or reschedule for a full refund of your deposit.
• 24–48 hours before your session: your deposit carries over toward your next booking. Exceptions can be made on a case-by-case basis.
• Less than 24 hours before your session: the deposit is non-refundable.

WHAT’S YOUR CANCELLATION POLICY?

Give me 24 hours’ notice and it’s free. Less than 24 hours and there’s a £30 cancellation fee, equal to your deposit — so if you’ve already paid your deposit, cancelling late simply means it isn’t refunded; there’s nothing further to pay. If I need to cancel, you get a full refund.

Priority: the person who booked and paid has priority over the person the session was booked for.

• You book and pay for your own session → cancellation terms apply to you.
• You book and pay for someone else’s session (a gift) → cancellation terms apply to you, not the recipient.
• Someone else books and pays for your session → they control cancellation, not you.

No-show: if you don’t show up and don’t cancel, there’s no refund — the full session fee is forfeited.

Get in touch using the same channel you booked with.

Touch has changed. A hundred years ago, touch was something that happened to you — expected, often without consent, shaped by social norms that didn’t prioritize your body’s signals. Today, touch is something you choose. It’s about what you want, what you’re looking for, and what feels right in your body.

In modern practice, we recognize three kinds of touch:

Clinical Touch — Professional, therapeutic touch focused on the body’s structure and function. It’s about release, healing, and nervous system regulation. No sensuality involved. Pure work.

Sensual Touch — Touch that engages your senses and your aliveness. It’s attentive, present, pleasurable. It’s not sexual, but it’s alive. It meets your body’s capacity to feel and receive.

Mutual Touch — Touch where both people are present and engaged. It’s not one-directional. There’s responsiveness, reciprocity, a felt sense of meeting.

The difference is consent and intention. You get to say what kind of touch you want. You get to say no to what doesn’t work. You get to change your mind mid-session. Me too — I don’t want to be touched when I don’t expect it, or when it’s not the touch I’m looking for. Your body’s signals matter. Mine do too.

WHAT DOES “CONSENSUAL TOUCH” MEAN?

It means everything — touch, pacing, areas being worked on, level of pressure — is agreed on and can be changed at any moment.

You’re in control. If something doesn’t feel right, we pause and adjust. Your body’s signals matter more than any protocol.

WILL I BE UNDRESSED?

That depends on which service you choose.

Thai Massage: No. You stay clothed throughout (loose clothing recommended).

Deep Tissue & Active Stretching, Lomi Lomi: Yes. You undress to whatever level feels comfortable for you. Some clients prefer underwear, some prefer to be fully naked. This is your choice and I respect it. You lie under a sheet. Only the area being worked on is uncovered. You’re always covered and in control.

I’m sex-positive and body-positive. Your body is your own. Being naked isn’t a statement about anything except comfort. Whether you’re a naturist or you prefer underwear — whatever works for your body, works for me.

Before any session, we discuss what feels comfortable for you.

WHAT DOES “SEX-POSITIVE” AND “BODY-POSITIVE” MEAN?

Sex-positive means I recognize that sexuality, pleasure, and desire are normal, healthy parts of being human. It’s not about promoting anything — it’s about not shaming people for their bodies, their desires, or their choices. Sex-positive practice creates space where you don’t have to hide or apologize for being a sexual being.

Body-positive means I see all bodies as worthy of respect and care. No judgment about size, shape, age, ability, or appearance. Your body is not a problem to be fixed. It’s a home you live in, and it deserves to be treated with dignity.

Together, they mean: You can be yourself here. Your body is welcome. Your desires don’t make you wrong. You don’t have to perform respectability or pretend to be smaller, less sexual, or less alive than you are.

WHAT IF I’M UNCOMFORTABLE WITH ANY ASPECT?

That’s completely valid. We can discuss options and find an approach that works for you. Your comfort and consent are paramount.

You set the pace and boundaries. There’s no pressure.

UPGRADE OR DOWNGRADE

At any point in a session you can ask to move to a higher or lower set of boundaries. Both of us have to agree — if not, the session continues as it was or ends there, and a new session can pick up from that point next time. Nothing changes without a clear yes from both sides.

WHAT’S THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN THAI, DEEP TISSUE, AND LOMI LOMI?

Thai: Clothed work on a futon. Combines pressure, stretching, and energy work in a flowing sequence. Meditative and grounding.

Deep Tissue & Active Stretching: Table work with oil. Stronger structural pressure plus guided stretching. For chronic tension and release.

Lomi Lomi: Premium flowing work in a heated room. Warm, enveloping, full-body sensation.

All three work with your nervous system and pace themselves to what your body can hold.

HOW SHOULD I PREPARE?

Very simple:

• Eat lightly (don’t come on a full stomach)
• Arrive 5-10 minutes early to settle
• Wear comfortable clothing
• Let me know about any injuries or tension areas
• Bring your body — that’s what matters

WHAT SHOULD I WEAR TO THE SESSION?

Thai Massage: Loose, comfortable clothing (wrap provided if needed).

Other sessions: Wear whatever you’re comfortable in beforehand. You’ll undress once you arrive, and I’ll guide you on what feels right.

WHAT IF I HAVE QUESTIONS BEFORE BOOKING?

Ask. That’s what the first consultation is for. And before that, WhatsApp or message me anytime. No question is too small.

HOW DO YOU WORK WITH DIFFERENT BODIES?

I work with all bodies — all ages, all genders, all shapes, all experience levels. No judgment. No assumptions.

If you have specific needs, injuries, or concerns, let me know and we’ll work with that.

IS THIS WORK THERAPEUTIC?

Yes. Every session is designed to create real change — through release, arrival, settling, or structural opening.

It’s not clinical in the medical sense, but it’s professional and grounded. Just presence and genuine work.

WHAT IS SOMATIC WORK?

Somatic means “of the body.” Somatic work is an approach that recognizes the body as an intelligent system — not just a vehicle for the mind, but a site of memory, emotion, and wisdom.

In somatic work, we work with:

• Your nervous system — how it learns to brace, protect, and hold
• Your breath — as a gateway to regulation and release
• Sensation — what your body is actually feeling and communicating
• Presence — the quality of attention we bring to what arises

The idea is simple: stress, tension, and emotion don’t just live in your thoughts — they live in your body’s patterns, your breath, your held tension. To address them, we work with the body itself.

HOW IS SOMATIC WORK DIFFERENT FROM REGULAR MASSAGE?

Regular massage is often about relaxation and feeling good — which is valuable.

Somatic work goes deeper. It’s about creating conditions where your body can release what it’s been holding — tension, protective patterns, stuck emotion. The goal isn’t just comfort; it’s genuine change and integration.

In somatic sessions, I’m tracking:

• How your nervous system responds
• Where you’re bracing or collapsing
• What your body wants to complete or release
• Your capacity in each moment

The pace is slower. The attention is more precise. The work is more intentional.

WHAT DOES “TRAUMA-INFORMED” MEAN?

Trauma-informed practice means understanding that many people carry unresolved experiences in their bodies. Trauma isn’t just psychological — it’s embodied. It lives in how you breathe, how you hold tension, how you respond to touch.

A trauma-informed approach means:

• Safety First — Creating conditions where your nervous system knows it’s safe
• Consent Always — Everything is negotiated. You’re in control. You can pause or stop anytime
• Pacing — Never rushing. Meeting you where you actually are
• No Re-traumatization — Being aware of triggers and working gently within your capacity
• Autonomy — You decide what happens in your body. I’m a facilitator, not a director

WHY IS TRAUMA-INFORMED PRACTICE IMPORTANT?

Because many bodies carry experiences that made them learn to brace, protect, or disconnect. If a practitioner doesn’t understand this, they can accidentally trigger those protective responses again.

A trauma-informed approach recognizes that healing happens when the nervous system learns it’s safe. When touch is consensual, paced, and genuinely present. When your body’s signals are respected.

HOW I APPLY TRAUMA-INFORMED SOMATIC WORK

In my practice, this looks like:

BEFORE THE SESSION:

• We discuss what you’re bringing and what you hope for
• I explain what will happen and how we’ll work
• You have full permission to set boundaries

DURING THE SESSION:

• I track your nervous system — your breathing, your responses, your comfort
• I move slowly and deliberately
• I check in regularly and respond to what I observe
• If something doesn’t feel right, we pause and adjust
• You’re always in control of the depth and pace

PACING WITH YOUR NERVOUS SYSTEM:

• I don’t push or force opening
• I create space for your body to do its own work
• I follow where the work needs to go, not a protocol

BREATHWORK:

• Conscious breathing is foundational — it signals your nervous system is safe
• We use breath as a tool for arrival, regulation, and release

PRESENCE:

• My regulated, present nervous system sends a signal of safety to yours
• You’re being truly witnessed, not just worked on

WHAT CONDITIONS BENEFIT FROM SOMATIC WORK?

Somatic work can support people working with:

• Chronic tension or pain
• Stress or anxiety
• Difficulty relaxing
• Unresolved experiences or trauma
• Disconnection from the body
• Grief or emotion that’s stuck in the body
• General sense of being “out of place” in your own body

That said, somatic work isn’t therapy or a substitute for professional mental health care. It’s a complementary practice that works best alongside other care if you’re working with something significant.

WHAT SHOULD I EXPECT IN A SOMATIC SESSION?

Every session is different, but generally:

Opening: We check in about what you’re carrying and what feels important today.

Breathwork: We often start with conscious breathing — slowing down, arriving in your body.

Touch & Presence: I work with slow, intentional touch. I’m tracking your responses and following where the work needs to go.

Integration: Time is built in for your body to integrate what’s shifted. We might move slowly, breathe, or just rest.

Closing: We talk briefly about what you noticed and what you might expect afterward.

Afterward: Your body might feel relaxed, energized, emotional, or simply different. All of those are normal. Give yourself time to integrate.

IS SOMATIC WORK APPROPRIATE FOR TRAUMA?

Yes, with nuance. Somatic approaches are specifically designed to work with how trauma lives in the body.

However, if you’re working with significant trauma, having a therapist alongside somatic work is ideal. I work from trauma-informed principles and can pace work appropriately, but I’m a somatic practitioner, not a trauma therapist.

CAN SOMATIC WORK HELP WITH ANXIETY?

Often, yes. Anxiety frequently lives in the body as held breath, braced muscles, and disconnection from sensation. Somatic work addresses these patterns by teaching the nervous system it’s safe, using breath to shift your state, and helping you reconnect with presence.

That said, if you’re managing clinical anxiety, somatic work is a great complement to other care, but not a substitute.

WHAT’S THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN BREATH AND NERVOUS SYSTEM REGULATION?

Trauma and stress teach the body to hold its breath or breathe shallowly — a protective mechanism. When that pattern becomes chronic, it keeps your nervous system in a state of low-level alert.

Conscious breathing is one of the most direct ways to tell your nervous system “it’s safe now.” When you breathe slowly and deeply, your body receives a signal that the threat has passed.

In somatic sessions, we use breath as a tool to arrive in your body, regulate your nervous system, and support release.

IS MY PRIVACY PROTECTED?

Completely. Your session is private and confidential. What you share and what happens in the session stays between us.

The studio is private — no waiting rooms, no other clients, completely discrete.

WHAT ABOUT CONFIDENTIALITY?

Your privacy is sacred. No records are kept beyond basic booking information. Nothing is shared. What happens in the session stays private.