What people tend to ask
Q: Do you offer any discounts?
A: Yes — every Thursday between 9am and 3pm, all massage and naked session services are 20% off. Book at least 24 hours in advance, minimum 90 min session. The Thursday discount can’t be combined with the basic setup discount (£20 off). One discount per booking.
Q: How do I know which session is right for me?
A: Start with whatever draws you. Not sure which one fits? Drop me a message first — one conversation usually makes it clear.
Q: Is this a sexual service?
A: Most of what I offer is not sexual — it’s professional, boundaried bodywork. Erotic and sensual work is on a separate page. If that’s what you’re looking for, read that page carefully and get in touch.
Q: What’s the difference between Thai and Deep Tissue?
A: Completely different. Thai is on a futon — clothes on, no oil, compression and passive stretching. Deep Tissue is on a table — oil, unclothed, slow sustained pressure into specific muscle layers. A quick message before booking usually makes it clear which fits.
Q: What’s Lomi Lomi?
A: Hawaiian bodywork — long continuous flowing strokes through the whole body without stopping. Rhythmic, immersive, unhurried. Good if you carry tension everywhere and don’t know where it starts.
Q: Do I need to talk?
A: No. You don’t need to narrate or explain anything. I might ask “what are you noticing?” — a word, a shrug, or silence all work. I follow what your breath and body are showing me — whether something relaxes or tenses tells me more than words usually do.
Q: I’ve never done somatic work. What does that mean?
A: It means slowing down and paying attention to what’s actually happening in your body. Not “does this feel nice” — more like: where is your breath landing right now? What does that tightness feel like if you let yourself stay with it? No vocabulary or background needed.
Q: Can I ask for different pressure, or tell you to stop?
A: Yes. Always. Immediately. A “no”, a hand, a shift in breathing, your body tensing — I’m reading it all. Don’t wait until something feels wrong.
Q: What if I get aroused during a non-sexual massage?
A: It happens. It’s not a problem and the session continues as normal.
Q: What’s included — linen, towels, shower?
A: Every session includes fresh laundered linen, a towel, shower before and after, and water throughout. If you’d prefer to skip the linen, towel, and shower — basic setup is £20 less. I cover the surface with a clean paper sheet and everything else stays the same. Just mention it when we arrange.
Q: I’m not spiritually-minded. Is that OK?
A: Completely. Nothing here requires belief in anything. What I use — breathwork, somatic questions, slowing down to notice what’s actually happening in the body — are practical tools, not spiritual ones. But they can reach places that rational conversation tends to skip past. The body holds things the mind has already filed away as resolved. The combination of breath, attention, and the right question at the right moment can lower a barrier that’s been there so long you stopped noticing it. That can feel strange, uncomfortable, or surprisingly emotional. Not because something is wrong — because something is actually moving.
Q: I’m spiritually-minded. Does that fit here?
A: Yes — there’s space for that here. Breathwork, somatic noticing, and meditation work together in a particular way: they can dissolve barriers the body builds around pleasure, support relearning what pleasure actually feels like, and gradually bring the upper and lower parts of the body into connection. If you already have a contemplative or spiritual practice, it tends to open things faster. Bring it.
Q: Can I have naked cuddles? Most therapists won’t offer this.
A: Yes — and I had to learn the hard way how much this matters. A regular client becomes a patient over time, and patients often come back for that more than anything else. Unhurried, undemanding contact — being held without it going anywhere — can be more settling than most formal therapies.
A word about asking: if you want this, ask. And if the answer is no, receive that without making it about rejection. Most practitioners aren’t withholding something cruel — they’re simply not looking for that kind of closeness, and that’s their right.
For my part, I had to find my own way with this. Not everyone who comes through the door is looking for sexual contact. What many people are actually looking for is accountability, comfort, safety — to be seen, to be held, to be allowed to be a little playful. That’s not a lesser need. Sometimes it’s the whole point.
Q: When should I reschedule or cancel?
A: Please avoid or cancel your session if you are in acute emotional distress, experiencing an emotional hangover, or within 48 hours of using recreational substances. The body needs to be in a stable enough place to receive the work — and the work needs a stable enough body to land properly. If you’re unsure, message me first and we’ll reschedule without issue. You don’t need to explain yourself. Cancellation fees are listed on the Rates page.
Q: What happens at the end of a session?
A: I close quietly. Water is there. No rush to dress or speak. After you leave I do a private room-clearing — a small ritual that’s mine, not yours to carry.
Q: Do you travel to me?
A: Yes — Stanmore, Edgware, and NW London as standard. Further by arrangement. We discuss the setup and what I bring beforehand so everything is ready when I arrive. You provide a private space.
Q: Can I book without knowing exactly what I want?
A: “I just want something but I don’t know what” is a perfectly good starting point. If you’re feeling brave — ask for anything. The worst that can happen is an honest conversation about whether it’s possible. If you’d rather play it safe, start with something basic — a good session will tell you more about what you actually want than any amount of thinking beforehand. And if during a session something comes up — a feeling, a curiosity, something you didn’t expect — just ask for a pause. Take a breath. We can talk and adjust from there.
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