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Q: I’ve never had an erotic massage. What should I expect?

A: The session starts with full-body massage — warming, grounding, nothing rushed. What happens from there follows what your body is actually doing. I don’t follow a fixed sequence. For first-timers I can offer body mapping — a way of exploring sensation and response with curiosity rather than expectation. You don’t need to know what you want in advance.

Q: What is body mapping?

A: A way of getting acquainted with your own body’s responses in a guided, unhurried way. I work through different areas and types of touch, and you notice what you feel — what’s pleasant, what’s neutral, what you’d like more or less of. Useful for people who haven’t been touched much, who carry tension or numbness in parts of their body, or who simply want to start somewhere clear and honest.

Q: What does the edging approach mean in practice?

A: It means the session isn’t building toward a single fixed release. The pace is varied — sensation is extended, slowed, redirected — so the body stays open and present rather than heading for an exit. For most people this produces a qualitatively different experience. Some arrive somewhere they haven’t been before. Others simply find it more interesting than what they expected.

Q: Can you teach me to use breath during a session?

A: Yes. Breath is one of the most practical tools available — it’s physiology, not spiritual vocabulary. How you breathe during a session directly affects how sensation moves through your body. I can guide this during the session itself, or we can talk through it beforehand.

Q: What’s the difference between erotic and tantric?

A: Both sessions are naked. For erotic, you undress yourself and get on the table or futon — we begin from there. Tantric can open differently: I can include an undressing ritual as part of how the session starts, if that’s something you want. From there, tantric builds more slowly — breath and energy woven throughout, less fixed direction, more open to where it goes. Erotic is more structured — scope clear from the start, one-way touch as the default, a clearer frame around what’s included. Internal anal massage is available in tantric but not erotic. Tantric works best with returning clients or after a more detailed conversation first.

Q: Is internal anal massage available?

A: Internal anal massage is available in tantric sessions and above only, talked through beforehand. External anal massage means working around and on the outside of the anal opening — the surrounding tissue, the sphincter muscles, the perineum. It’s available in erotic and tantric sessions. Internal anal massage means working inside the rectum, including prostate massage for those with a prostate — the prostate sits a few centimetres inside, toward the front of the body, and can be a significant site of sensation and release when approached slowly and with care.

Q: I’m experienced with erotic work. Can the session go further?

A: Yes. For people who already have some body awareness and are curious about what else is possible — the session can include breath guidance and a more open approach to sensation. Some people find the body has more range than they realised. I won’t name it more specifically than that here — but if you’re curious, mention it when you get in touch.

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